My youngest son had his first real hair cut. He said he didn’t want to look like a girl any more. Those were his words. So my wife went into cut his hair. This is a task that is not easy. Especially considering that he is short and fast. He was ducking around and my wife was afraid of cutting his ears. But instead of his long wisps of blonde hair he has short (er) hair and he seems to be happy with it. He was showing it off to me. It really does make me wonder though how children determine that they are a boy or a girl. I know that some people say that it is societal but so far I don’t think so. My daughter likes to play with toys, she likes stuffed animals and takes a keen interest in beautiful women. My two sons on the other hand are different from each other, the older one likes mechanical stuff and imaginative active play. The younger one likes animals and nature, he also has a very vivid imagination but prefers passive play.
When I was younger I used to think that kids were born with what is known as tabula rasa or blank sheet. The kids could be molded to what you want them to be cause they are a brand new blank sheet. However now that I have kids I realize that is so far from the truth. Kids are born preprogrammed with likes dislikes and a whole personality before they are even born. The way the kids would respond inside the womb is also very much the way they would be in real life. My middle son likes to sleep and when he was in the womb he slept a lot where as my daughter would move her hand very gently along the womb lining she is also very gentle in real life.
So children are definitely not tabula rasa but how do kids know whether they are boys or girls. This to me is also preprogrammed. My two boys love transformers and other boy shows. They throw each around and beat on each other. However my daughter will play with the Transformer toys she does not enjoy fighting and she likes playing with her baby dolls. How does she know that this is girlish behavior vs boys beating on each other? I have never told her that she needs to do this or that boys should play with the stuff that they do.
Son did you hurt yourself: https://libertariandad.wordpress.com/2013/11/15/son-did-you-hurt-yourself/
Your kids wont turn out the way you think they will: https://libertariandad.wordpress.com/2013/11/19/your-kids-wont-turn-out-the-way-you-think-they-will-guest-post/
How to deal with your children: https://libertariandad.wordpress.com/2013/11/18/breaking-the-cycle-how-to-deal-with-your-children/
The Rites of Manhood: http://www.lewrockwell.com/2013/12/brett-and-kate-mckay/the-rites-of-manhood/