The follow up is what counts


Father_and_Son_Toronto_May_2012Your oldest one is running around. Your second child throws something across the room. The third child is crying because they just got hit in the head with whatever was thrown by the second child. You look around the room you literally have no idea where to start. Do you go for the first one the second child or the third child. You can stop each one and talk to them individually and attempt to make a corrective action, the primary key in all of this is consistency. Regardless of whatever you do, the same actions have to be done again and again and again.

One of the toughest things that I dealt with as a parent was being consistent. Letting things slide letting things go or looking the other way led to a moment where the kids think they can get away with just what anything. This is a situation that has to be afforded at all costs. Children do have to understand that there are rules and their consequences for their actions. Just as much as a human grown up steal something from a store just because they can get away with it doesn’t mean that there should be any consequences for the. Grown-ups understand there’s consequences for actions. While children may not be as sophisticated as adults and may not necessarily always understand this. It is very important to remind them that there are consequences and especially if they do the same thing again and again. There needs to be follow up with this.

Consistency for me has meant that I would either talk to my kids or punish them in some way according to the action. I’ve kept this up for several months and I have been very consistent with it and eventually the children realize that yeah they could do this, but their would be actions against held against them. This would keep coming and keep coming keep coming. Eventually they understood that as long as they were doing bad there would be consequences for their actions, we’ve now come to the place where my kids understand this and they obey and don’t try to even tempt me. It has led to a much more peaceful house in a much more peaceful environment. So for people who struggle with their kids causing issues and being naughty this is what has very much work for me and has led me to being much happier with my children.

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“Father and Son Toronto May 2012” by marc falardeau from toronto – FATHER AND SON REUNIONUploaded by Skeezix1000. Licensed under CC BY 2.0 via Wikimedia Commons – http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Father_and_Son_Toronto_May_2012.jpg#/media/File:Father_and_Son_Toronto_May_2012.jpg

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2 thoughts on “The follow up is what counts

  1. Yes. Consistency is important. I agree. Children have to know what will happen they do this or that.

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