What are parents good for. It was one of those issues that comes up and talking with many people.’ They didn’t do this for me, they didn’t do that for me, they didn’t buy me a new car, they let my younger brother and sisters do anything they want, I could have done so much more but my parents never really pushed me and so on and so forth.’ When people complain like this, there is generally some valid criticism. However once one a becomes a parent, one quickly realizes that your parents are just people trying to make the best of the situation.
In a recent conversation with my wife, where I said something about my parents. My wife said to me why to focus on the positive sides of what your parents did? It, shook me up a little bit. It made me realize that, “parents are just people trying to make the best of situation.” All parents have their flaws. This doesn’t mean that they’ve somehow ruined you, are made you an even worse person then maybe you think you are. Unless they pulled you out of school, physically handicapped you in some way or seriously deprived you of something, the reality is the parent probably did as much as they could for you.
While it is easy to blame your parents for your shortcomings. At the end of the day you’re responsible for who you are. They may not have had all the money that they needed to put into you, give you the best education they possibly could, or you made the best decisions about your life. This doesn’t mean that they’ve ruined you or that somehow you are less than what you really could be. In fact what you can learn from them is one of the most important things that they can give you, which is you can improve upon what your parents gave you. You can be a better parent than your parents. So instead of criticizing what your parents did focus on the positives, which are that they loved you, they took care of you, they didn’t break you permanently and they probably did the best that they could with you. So taking all that and applying that to your being a parent or an adult, you can make this world for yourself and for your children a better place.
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