I was watching the movie Up. At the beginning of the movie there’s a little tiny movie about a boy and a girl that meet each other and get married. Together they have all these great plans. However, she ends up dying before any of the plans are able to be done and by that time they’re way too old to even consider doing any of them. This movie is emotional for anybody who’s married because it’s very telling of how things can be with your spouse. You have grand plans, dreams and so many things that you want to go do. But the reality is is that all you really want to do is be with that person no matter where life might take you. This, in so many ways, is what makes being married so incredibly wonderful.
Being married isn’t easy, it’s not always fun, and, in all fairness it can be downright difficult. There are many times when you just want to yell at your spouse and go, “why don’t you get this?” It can be very tough when you have a long day at the office because bad or good, you are just tired. You come home and the house may not be as clean as you wanted, the kids are running around screaming and your wife is asking to do something that you really don’t want to do. Over time this can take its toll on any marriage. But the reality is that this is just a part of being married.
You first meet this person that you’re going to marry and you fall head over heels in love with this person. You finally end up getting married and settling down, just living your life. The day-to-day things start happening, such as going to the grocery store, having children and driving around in a car. But all of these things come together and start building up your relationship. Many times it’s the late-night conversations, the amount of driving that you do together, going through sickness and health together and even through the more difficult challenges. These are what makes a marriage as strong as it can be.
Unfortunately, in our modern era of instant information, instant gratification, instant just about anything, marriage can seem kind of boring. After years of being together, the thrill of staying up till midnight together, that’s gone. The first time you kiss, that thrill is gone. The sneaking around your parents back and whatever else can be so thrilling about a relationship goes away. All these things are replaced with pretty boring things, pretty mundane things. But in any relationship regardless of whether it’s married, best friend, parents, brothers and sisters and so on there will always be a sense of boredom, a sense of no thrill. But it’s the totality of the experience the makes relationship stronger, it is what makes you understand the other person better, it is what makes you love the person even more. Then longer you are together makes you realize that there’s absolutely no other person that you would rather be with than with your spouse, because they’re the one that makes you happy.
This was done in response to a friends website: http://polyamorydiaries.com/
By John Hope from Leeds, UK (Amy & Jez-113) [CC BY 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)%5D, via Wikimedia Commons